I'm just like any other girl: I like chocolate, makeup (especially lipstick), fun clothes, Tom Hiddleston, nail polish, shoes, Benedict Cumberbatch, wine, and action movies. That last part might be a little off, but you get it. There's one thing, however, I've noticed a lot of girls doing that I do not enjoy:
Calling each other bitches.
That's the last time I'm going to use that word because I'm a lady and my vocabulary is better than that. Instead we will say biscuits. No, that would not be apropos. Let's settle on bonkers. I do not enjoy women referring to other women as bonkers.
The other song is Nicki Minaj's "Anaconda" and I won't listen to it. Mostly because I don't think I'll find it entertaining.
There's a problem with both of these songs: They refer to skinny girls as bonkers. Skinny is already a derogatory remark, and I can say that because I'm referred to as skinny. This isn't about the word skinny though. This is about women referring to other women as bonkers.
Women are always going on about feminism/women's rights movement. We talk about what women had to go through just to be able to vote and start to feel like equals in the workplace. Once upon a time, women didn't wear pants. I don't care much for pants, we all know this, but look how far we've come. We can leave our jobs to go vote while wearing pants, and it's OK.
We wanted to be able to do things that men can. So if a man shouldn't call a woman bonkers, neither should a woman.
Let's get a little 21st Century. We (women) are infatuated with discussing body image. We want to talk about how we shouldn't Photoshop images. That's a blog in its entirety because I'm 100% sure 93% of the people talking about Photoshop don't know how use it.
We are especially talented in talking about body appreciation. Regardless of size, every woman is beautiful. Body Shaming = Bad. This summer, there was a Fatkini hashtag - #fatkini. Girls were beautifully and proudly walking around in their adorable swimwear. Posting photos of themselves with that hashtag. We have songs, such as the ones mentioned above, about how she's got "all the right junk in all the right places." Then proceeds to say "I'm bringing booty back, so go ahead and tell all them skinny bonkers that."
Some thing is not right. Last I understood, bonkers is not a favorable term. So why does it seem acceptable to refer to thin, svelte, non-curvaceous, non-Junoesque women as bonkers? Pardon my verbiage here, but if I was a singer/songwriter and I had a song saying "tell all them fat bonkers that" or "all these fat bonkers in the club," I would have to issue an apology and hope I don't lose endorsements.
The appreciate your body, love your body, you are beautiful "movement" does not just apply to curvaceous women. It applies to full-figured women, thin women, muscular women, svelte women, voluptuous women, tall women, short women. Women. It applies to women. I'm svelte. I'm six feet tall, and the only way I'll be considered curvaceous is if I pay for it. I think I'm beautiful. I think I've got "all the right junk in all the right places." I think I deserve a better moniker than bonkers. (Unless we're talking about the actual term bonkers, then I'm quite deserving of that. I'm a little wacky.)
I think every woman deserves to not be called bonkers. So when you see a girl, regardless of her size, instead of saying "look at that bonkers," how about you take your left hand, hinge at the elbow, take it out to the left and snap. Bring it back in to the center and snap. Then lower it a bit, back to the outside, and snap again. Because that girl you just saw is not bonkers; she's beautiful. She deserves some snaps.
Hey girl, hey.
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